I do "intake" for a certain agency. That means I must "interview" many people. I have interviewed a certain gentleman several times. This week, however, when I walked into the lobby and called his number, a woman stood and walked toward me. I'd never seen her before, but her name was actually on the application, so I wasn't too surprised.
What happened in that interview room was awful - awful for her, and triggering for me. Awful, Awful, Awful.
When I commented that I didn't think we'd met, because Husband usually comes in, she looked like a deer in the headlights. Her eyes watered and her face flushed.
She told me that only a month after the last time I spoke with him, he was arrested by the Feds. Surprised, I asked, "Why!" Wife then went on to explain that he had been the target of a federal sting and had been soliciting a "16-year-old girl" on the Internet. It was leud, to say it nicely. It was also really a Federal agent.
I was stricken with memories of my own experience with a pedophile and could barely breathe. Wife silently cried. Awful. I ended up crying with her; she was so hurt, betrayed, and humiliated because she hadn't known anything. In fact, Husband was so controlling that after he was carted off, she panicked when the first utility bill came to the house - she had never been allowed to handle money or pay any bills. She told me she immediately called her mother and cried that she didn't know where to pay the bill. Oh, God. My heart broke for her.
My heart broke for all the children who are so trusting and innocent. When will it end.
I then watched the special on JC Dugard. Well, I saw the beginning and 15 minutes of the end. Another part of me was too unwilling to let me see it. I ended up calling up Mr.S and had a 2 hour session. Mr.S reminded me that it's not about me, it's about the evil of the bad guys. I understand that, I get it. But what upset me so badly was that my superviser knew why Husband had been arrested and didn't warn me. I had the right to know that and Husband certanly didn't offer it up to me at any of the interviews with him.
Once again, I was not allowed a choice and that's what makes me angry. ... He seemed so damn nice and normal. I was decieved again.