Have you ever had a person in your life, that you care about who always begins a conversation with, "Okay, if I talk about [this], you can't say [that], cause I already know what you're thinking and I don't want to hear it, okay? deal?"
"Can I say something?" [yes] "I know it will make you mad at me, but I don't care, but don't think it the bad way, okay? And if you get upset with me just don't let me know, okay? Or I won't talk about it."
I usually don't ask her to talk about "it" in the first place. She always controls a conversation this way, with conditions and provisions. I don't like it - not one bit. I know she's insecure, but seriously? How can anyone build a relationship with communications like that?
My daughter makes me feel as if I'm in a blender every time I talk to her. I'm not saying this just to complain, I need to find a way to work thru it - or get HER to work thru it.