Well, the family meeting was last night. The first 20 minutes were okay and then suddenly, everyone was looking at me. Darn. I didn't hold up. I started to cry. BUT. My mother DID stick up for me, she DID talk them down and keep the meeting civil. I came home totally a wreck, tho, and didn't sleep for hours and, well, until this morning some time. I called her this afternoon to get her take on the evening. She feels all went well, so I told her how I was feeling and that I'm not sure it went so well, but that I was so stressed, I might have been looking for an "attack". She said she didn't think they attacked me, they just wanted to get some stuff off their minds and that we should let them have some time to think about it all. She also told me that telling them some stuff that my ex did just before he left me probably opened their eyes because they all talked about it after I left.
So, I'm still not sure about anything except that I thanked my mother for standing up for me. I told her I'm not used to that and it felt nice. She told me she had to to something different. I'm glad she did it.