Okay, you all have heard, post after post, about me bragging that my therapist is so wonderful. Well, he is, but he made a statement recently that invalidates me and my past so completely that I cannot wait until next week to bring it up.
Two weeks ago in my session, I gave him a heads up about a friend of mine who shared with me that her ex molested their sons and at least one of her daughters. The ex is, as we speak, in the court system awaiting sentencing. But - she is aware that the therapist the boys go to is not working out for them. So, I mentioned she might consult my therapist. She is not aware I'm his client but is aware I've had a bad childhood.
Anyway, that day in my session, in sharing a bit of information about the teen aged boys, my T says innocently, "It's more difficult for males than females, when they are molested."
"It just is."
"I don't know."
So, why would he say that and not explain it? I'm going to ask. I feel totally invalidated!
***WARNING!*** BAD LANGUAGE COMING. STOP HERE IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ IT *** Also, for my male blogging friends, I am in no way invalidating your situations, I know how bad it can be.
I am now upon my strong and sturdy soap box.
I am sick to death of people, society, men, and women giving women so damn little credit. It's a proven thing that if someone sees a man in his front yard playing with his children, they say, "Oh, how sweet, he is taking care of his kids."
If they see a mother in the front yard playing with her children, they say, "Would you look at that! Playing, instead of putting supper on the table!" Really, this has been studied and is a true fact.
So-- is rape different for a male because he is made to fuck instead of being fucked? Do people really think it can't be as bad for a woman because she is supposed to be fucked anyway?
I THINK NOT, T! Rape and molestation is just that - for anyone who experiences it. A child (male or female not specified) is not meant to be fucked.
We are definately going to discuss this next week. Damn, it's hard training a therapist to be a good one.
[Climbs off of soap box, folds it, puts it in pocket] :)