A friend and I recently called it quits. She has personal issues, all of which add up to worse than DID, believe it or not. Anyway, I don't really know what happened except she ignored me for 2 weeks and then sent me a very mysterious email about meeting at her house so she could inform me of something.
She was very evasive and since she has a history of attacking me (she physically attacked me at work one day), I asked if she would mind coming to my house. She exploded with accusations, most of which were irrational, and tho I kept asking her what was going on, she was out of control and I finally just stopped emailing her. I called her twice trying to find out what had happened and what was wrong - she wouldn't answer the phone, or call me back. All I found out was that "it" had something to do with her and her husband's finances.
I was sad and distraught for weeks over this.
Yes, she has issues, but who doesn't? We always seemed to get past them and I thot we were close enough to weather anything. I got over it and dealt with the pain of losing the only friend I had left, and then... I got an email from her daughter.
My email address was in her daughter's contacts and she emailed globally, I was not chosen specifically. Her email was to notify everyone of her new email address. No harm, no foul, I just shrugged it off as her not remembering my name was there. Two days later, an email came from my (ex) friend's address to me - and to every other email address originally on the first email from her daughter, meaning all her daughters friends and family.
(My friend's daughter doesn't like her, they never get along because my friend is so controlling. I know her well enough to recognize in her email back to her daughter that she "professes too loudly" several things. That was my first clue she really meant the email for me.
I tried not to email a response, but I did anyway I just didn't send it globally like she did. I basically told her I would not play this game - that's how she deals with problems, she writes letters to people.
I am crushed. Again, all over, I am crushed. Is it too petty? I can't help being hurt over this. Totally devastated. Why is it that when people no longer want me in their life, they can't just walk away? Why do they have to turn around and try to destroy me? My ex-husband did the same thing. In all honesty, I am shocked I've reacted this way, I don't know what to do with it.